This really makes me look back on my relationship with a guy who always praised me for my "not like other girls" mentality and behavior without really realizing what he was doing. I very much felt like I was molding myself to fit the ideal he put forth, not explicitly, but more and more subtextually as time went on.
This really makes me look back on my relationship with a guy who always praised me for my "not like other girls" mentality and behavior without really realizing what he was doing. I very much felt like I was molding myself to fit the ideal he put forth, not explicitly, but more and more subtextually as time went on.
Really resonates with me. Especially the thought of filling a role. I've been doing that since I was a kid! Like - who am I, even??
This reminded me of reading Mr. Fox by Helen Oyeyemi; you might enjoy!